Be Bold.

“Plunge Boldly into the thick of life and seize it where you will.” ~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

I actually wrote some of this almost 3 years ago and the past couple of years have sure been an extra something…more to come there, but it still felt so relevant for me now. For this new beginning here with you all.

What inspired this was an IG post I saw once that said something to the effect of “You are divine as f*ck”, you lack nothing.” And while I can’t find that post now, wow did just that person’s words change my energy. Because you know what? I am divine as f*ck. We all are. But most of us spend our lives not believing that or seeing that in ourselves, listening to others stories and conditions, taking on outside programming of how we “should” be, not seeing our own magic. Waiting for someone or something to move us. Something outside of us to make us happy. That the Divine is outside of us. Quieting our own inner fire.

You are powerful beyond measure, nothing is missing. You have all the tools inside of you to move. It does require work, it does require courage. It requires discomfort and unfortunately often a lot of pain. And truthfully, the hardest part for most of us is that in this process, you will disappoint others. You will disappoint and cause discomfort to those around you. Because the truth is they need you to be a certain way, to meet their expectations so that they are ok. How do I know? I know this because I have sat a lot with disappointment and the fact that I was in near constant hyper-vigilance in ensuring that everyone around me was ok or ok enough so that I could be ok. I will say that again…I spent so much time trying to regulate others emotions, helping them be ok, so that I could be ok. Especially in my closest relationships. And my guess is you are doing it too. In partnerships, family relationships, and working relationships.

I realized this after a mentor lovingly roasted me about this very same thing. The raw truth is that I was trying to make everyone around me be how I would be or how I wanted them to be so that I could be me and so that I could heal. OUCH. By doing this I’m also taking away their experience, their lessons, their growth. Because it’s not my job to make them ok, it’s my job to make me ok. That doesn’t mean I don’t lend support, love, or advice.

My practice now is allowing what is and being me anyways. Healing anyways. Now of course that doesn’t mean people can just trash all over me or I can’t have needs. It simply means I communicate my needs regardless of whether it goes the way I want or not, I’m ok. That I learn to be ok. That I may need to distance myself from a person or a situation. Or make some tough life decisions. But the more I do this the more energy I am calling back to myself. Because I’m no longer giving it all away. Imagine what all that energy can do?

I surrender to allowing others to be who they are. We all come from different places with different backgrounds and different tools. What people choose to do with it is their business. Allowing someone just to be who they are without expectations is so freeing.

So, be bold. Don’t settle. You have so much to give, so much life to live. You have everything you need now. You lack nothing.

If you don’t stop the old script, it will keep writing your life for you. I’ve been there, waking up a year later in the same place. That realization lit a fire in me. I’m choosing the next chapter, and I’m choosing it on purpose.

Namasté